The Cycle

29 09 2012

The mom-in-law is back now in her home city, sent from that hospital to a care centre, until either 1. she will be ready to go home with Home Care coming in or 2. a spot opens in a care center for her right away.

I suspect she will need to go back to the house to wait. We will be going up soon to organize the house contents some more Рtaking to the landfill, or donating or setting aside to wash and then consign clothes at that time.  It is a huge job.

Just now listening to The Living Years by Mike and the Mechanics on WinAmp¬†thinking about when this song first came out – my mom and stepdad were still alive. Now it’s time for the inlaws to move into a senior’s centre and so it goes.

Again music unites the past and the present and the future.






And So It Goes

8 09 2012

Mother-in-law is doing well and should be home soon, or in a senior’s lodge. Son has still not been here to visit or to bring our coffee, which his company sells. We get our orders from him, but have to wait until he has time to bring the supply.

I have been stressed out from the visiting at the hospital, but of course that is what one does when family needs us and is ill.

I am so tired. Does it get better? I don’t believe it does. When one crisis is over another seems to appear.

I have been thinking about the educational system and a news report that students at one school were not to have marks of 0% even if they did not submit a report for grading. The teacher who gave a 0% is probably going to lose his job. No wonder we have such poor quality young people that cannot show up for work because they have no ambition and no sense of self respect or initiative.

What happened to the teachers with training in university that learned psychology
and how to interact with young people? Seems to be lost in the sea of political correctedness and that is a major loss to society.

In-Laws and Quality of Life

1 09 2012


This past week we have dealing with the in-laws and their health issues.

I am trying to decide what steps my husband and I should take to prepare for the last few years of our lives. The in-laws have hoarding and denial issues, so things are difficult. We do have the assistance of some other family members who only want the best outcome for them so that is really a help.

I have no illusions that my son and his wife will be any help at all – they are way to busy with their own lives and have absolutely no interest in us and our aging related problems.

Truthfully, I would love to be able to tell them that ‘we are moving’ *somewhere far away* and we’ll let them know when we are settled, but that is an unrealistic dream.

It is really depressing to know that your children cannot be relied on to do the best for you and to help when it is needed.

Oh well, we will cope as is necessary.


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